Between handling logistics before, during and after the move, adjusting to a new culture and climate, and supporting your family through the transition, it's easy to put yourself last. You tell yourself you’ll focus on your wellbeing once things settle down—but when does that actually happen?
The truth is, your wellbeing isn’t a luxury to squeeze in when you have time. It’s the foundation that allows you to adjust, connect, and thrive in your new home. Something, without which, you can soon become deflated and demotivated. As an expat coach, and from my own personal expat journey, I’ve seen time and again that when you prioritise you needs, everything else starts to fall into place, and you'll be able to support the rest of your family more enthusiastically, if you take care of your own needs first.
The Impact of Putting Yourself Last
It’s natural to focus on making sure your family is settled, your home is organised, and you’ve ticked all the necessary boxes. But if you’re constantly running on empty, you risk feeling overwhelmed, lonely, and disconnected. The stress of adapting to a new environment can wear you down, leading to frustration, resentment, or even burnout.
Wellbeing isn’t just about self-care in the traditional sense—it’s about feeling emotionally balanced, having a sense of purpose, and creating a life that feels fulfilling. When you prioritise these things, you don’t just benefit yourself; you show up as a happier, more present partner, parent, and friend.
Small Shifts That Make a Big Difference
You don’t need to overhaul your entire routine to start taking better care of yourself. Small, intentional changes can have a huge impact:
Create a Sense of Routine
Even if everything around you feels unfamiliar, finding small ways to create consistency in your day can provide a sense of stability. Whether it’s a morning coffee ritual, a workout, or an evening walk, these little habits help you feel grounded. Engaging in these things daily will eventually lead them to be automatic, meaning one less decision to make each day.
Connect with People Who Support You
Loneliness is one of the biggest challenges for new expats, and building a social network takes time. Be proactive by saying yes to invitations, joining expat groups, or signing up for local activities. If a great place to start if you're in Dubai, is to join Fresh Start Socials, a group for those looking for friendship, support and accountability.
Keep Your Body and Mind in Check
Physical and mental health go hand in hand. Make sure you’re eating well, staying active, and getting enough rest. But also pay attention to your thoughts—are you being kind to yourself, or are you caught up in guilt and self-criticism? Practising self-compassion is just as important as looking after your physical health. Not only that, but being self critical can prevent you from taking proper care of yourself, leading to a cycle of depression.
Set Personal Goals
Ask yourself what you want to achieve over the next few years and then consider what action needs to happen now to enable you to get there. Remember, you've emigrated for a reason and it's not just about your husband's career progression. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn a new language, start a hobby, help others, or explore a different career path. Setting personal goals, even small ones, gives you a sense of purpose and identity beyond being an expat spouse.
Wellbeing as a New Expat is a Priority
Settling in takes time, and there will be moments when things feel frustrating or uncertain. But the more you invest in your own wellbeing as a new expat, the more confident and resilient you’ll feel. You don’t have to do it all alone, and you don’t need to wait for everything to be perfect before taking care of yourself.
If you’re finding it difficult to focus on yourself amidst all the changes, I’m here to help. My coaching is designed to support you in creating a fulfilling expat life—one where you feel balanced, confident, and happy in your new home. Because you deserve more than just getting through the transition—you deserve to truly enjoy it.
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